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HEY, THAT'S ME!!!
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Saturday, November 26, 2011
No One is Teaching Men...
Nobody's teaching our men the importance and value of relationships. There are prescriptions and proscriptions for women. How to get a man. How to keep a man. How to sex a man. How to love a man. But there is no manual for men. There is no one teaching them that there is no special alignment of stars that will come with the right relationship. There is no perfect situation, no perfect woman, no perfect timing. No one is teaching men that like other things in life they desire, they have to take a chance. No one is teaching them that their professional development is no more important than their personal development, their personal relationships; that after all the money is spent and earned, 401ks depleted, children in college, parents deceased, what they will have is the personal they built and THAT is important. No one is teaching men that anything worth having is worth fighting and working for and that includes love. I wish someone would teach men the importance of love. No one is teaching men that although you should work for love, it shouldn't be that type of work that you dread, but that work that you do cuz you love it. No one is teaching men so women don't have to convince them, teach them the value of relationships. No one is teaching men how to stay in relationships, what it takes to build and maintain one. They know how to get a woman. They know how to sex her. They know how to keep her...around. I wish some one would teach men. Teach men that perfection doesn't exist. I wish some one would teach men that women are not the only ones looking for the one. That all the time they spend dodging relationships is time they waste looking, but not looking for this perfection, this magic moment, magic person that doesn't exist. Men seem to be waiting for this gong from the heavens that doesn't exist. No one is teaching men that this is a feeling thing. This is not calculated. not planned. The time you spend planning love, attempting to make space for relationships is the time you miss. No one is teaching or showing men that the most special and prosperous relationships are those that begin with a feeling. No one is teaching them that they could lose the one they're looking for along the journey. I just wish someone would teach some men...something
But no one taught me this either....
But no one taught me this either....
Thursday, November 10, 2011
Organ Donor
If I could be honest, I would tell how damaged I was am.
If I could be honest, I'd tell you that every time I ask to see you, either beating, preventing, or forcing you to...
whatever your response is, I lose (a little confidence, a little faith)
...a little space - a little, just a tad of myself
A tad of control that I have held on to for so long
a bit of my health
If I could be honest, I'd tell you that I am AFRAID, scared, terrified of liking LOVING and hurting someone
I am afraid that by liking, then loving, that I (eye) will meet, re-meet, repeat a broken heart
If I could be honest,
If I could be in control, I'd let go!
Since I'm being honest:
I hate LOATHE despise asking someone to see me! I make a mental note EVERY time I make an inquiry to be seen. I hate not being fit in to some one else's schedule. I hate complicated. I hate compartmentalizing in REAL life, you know with real people and real feelings. I HATE when my feelings fast forward quicker than reality and I don't know whether I should catch up or speed up or stay still and figure out what's it all about.
I HATE feeling like a disturbance.
Since I'm being honest, than I could be honest with myself and:
recognize that sometimes its in my head. But when that feeling is in my gut, I can't turn a blind eye to what will end in my broken (borrowed) heart.
If I could be honest, I'd tell you that every time I ask to see you, either beating, preventing, or forcing you to...
whatever your response is, I lose (a little confidence, a little faith)
...a little space - a little, just a tad of myself
A tad of control that I have held on to for so long
a bit of my health
If I could be honest, I'd tell you that I am AFRAID, scared, terrified of liking LOVING and hurting someone
I am afraid that by liking, then loving, that I (eye) will meet, re-meet, repeat a broken heart
If I could be honest,
If I could be in control, I'd let go!
Since I'm being honest:
I hate LOATHE despise asking someone to see me! I make a mental note EVERY time I make an inquiry to be seen. I hate not being fit in to some one else's schedule. I hate complicated. I hate compartmentalizing in REAL life, you know with real people and real feelings. I HATE when my feelings fast forward quicker than reality and I don't know whether I should catch up or speed up or stay still and figure out what's it all about.
I HATE feeling like a disturbance.
Since I'm being honest, than I could be honest with myself and:
recognize that sometimes its in my head. But when that feeling is in my gut, I can't turn a blind eye to what will end in my broken (borrowed) heart.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
The Bridge Poem
Donna Kate Rushin.
I've had enough
I'm sick of seeing and touching
Both sides of things
Sick of being the damn bridge for everybody Nobody
Can talk to anybody
Without me
Right?
I explain my mother to my father my father to my little sister
My little sister to my brother my brother to the white feminists
The white feminists to the Black church folks the Black church folks
To the ex-hippies the ex-hippies to the Black separatists the
Black separatists to the artists the artists to the my friends' parents. .
Then I've got to explain myself
To everybody
I do more translating
Than the Gawdamn U.N.
Forget it
I'm sick of it
I'm sick of filling in your gaps
Sick of being your insurance against
The isolation of your self-imposed limitations
Sick of being the crazy at your holiday dinners
Sick of being the odd one at your Sunday Brunches
Sick of being the sole Black friend to 34 individual white people
Find another connection to the rest of the world
Find something else to make you legitimate
Find some other way to be political and hip
I will not be the bridge to your womanhood
Your manhood
Your human-ness
I'm sick of reminding you not to
Close off too tight for too long
I'm sick of mediating with your worst self
On behalf of your better selves
I am sick
Of having to remind you to breath
Before you suffocate
Your own fool self.
Donna Kate Rushin.
I've had enough
I'm sick of seeing and touching
Both sides of things
Sick of being the damn bridge for everybody Nobody
Can talk to anybody
Without me
Right?
I explain my mother to my father my father to my little sister
My little sister to my brother my brother to the white feminists
The white feminists to the Black church folks the Black church folks
To the ex-hippies the ex-hippies to the Black separatists the
Black separatists to the artists the artists to the my friends' parents. .
Then I've got to explain myself
To everybody
I do more translating
Than the Gawdamn U.N.
Forget it
I'm sick of it
I'm sick of filling in your gaps
Sick of being your insurance against
The isolation of your self-imposed limitations
Sick of being the crazy at your holiday dinners
Sick of being the odd one at your Sunday Brunches
Sick of being the sole Black friend to 34 individual white people
Find another connection to the rest of the world
Find something else to make you legitimate
Find some other way to be political and hip
I will not be the bridge to your womanhood
Your manhood
Your human-ness
I'm sick of reminding you not to
Close off too tight for too long
I'm sick of mediating with your worst self
On behalf of your better selves
I am sick
Of having to remind you to breath
Before you suffocate
Your own fool self.
Stretch or drown Evolve or die The bridge I must be Is the Bridge to my own power I must translate My own fears Mediate My own weaknesses I must be the bridge to nowhere But my true self And then I will be useful. |
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
..not my future
"Recent improvements in data collection offer
unprecedented insight into the romantic partnerships
of disadvantaged men, revealing higher levels of instability,
complexity, and commitment than previously understood.
Young disadvantaged men are often involved in
casual romantic relationships that result in pregnancy.
When this occurs, most men remain involved with the
mother, are optimistic about the future of their relationships,
and are committed to their children. Economic
disadvantage, incarceration, conflict, and mistrust undermine
the stability of these relationships, however, and
most end within several years after the birth. New romantic
relationships begin shortly thereafter, creating complex
family structures. We know less about the patterns
of interaction between couples that produce unstable
partnerships or about the nature of romantic relationships
that do not involve children. With our growing understanding
of the presence of fathers in nonmarital households,
policy-makers must adapt their policies to support,
rather than undermine, these fragile unions."
A YEAR AGO THIS WOULD HAVE MADE ME CRY! NOW I JUST SHAKE MY HEAD AND PRAY THAT THIS WILL NOT BE MY FUTURE #carryon
unprecedented insight into the romantic partnerships
of disadvantaged men, revealing higher levels of instability,
complexity, and commitment than previously understood.
Young disadvantaged men are often involved in
casual romantic relationships that result in pregnancy.
When this occurs, most men remain involved with the
mother, are optimistic about the future of their relationships,
and are committed to their children. Economic
disadvantage, incarceration, conflict, and mistrust undermine
the stability of these relationships, however, and
most end within several years after the birth. New romantic
relationships begin shortly thereafter, creating complex
family structures. We know less about the patterns
of interaction between couples that produce unstable
partnerships or about the nature of romantic relationships
that do not involve children. With our growing understanding
of the presence of fathers in nonmarital households,
policy-makers must adapt their policies to support,
rather than undermine, these fragile unions."
A YEAR AGO THIS WOULD HAVE MADE ME CRY! NOW I JUST SHAKE MY HEAD AND PRAY THAT THIS WILL NOT BE MY FUTURE #carryon
Friday, September 30, 2011
REFLECTIONS...
My computer is about to die, so that means I need to make this QUICK (and short)
A year ago I could not have imagined I'd be doing this, but I must say I LOVE IT! I am very proud to be the lead in a team of very strong, determined and visionary individuals, with S.K. as the face, the energy, the voice and the talent. S.K. just put out an ALBUM in April titled The Progression, but coming to a d/l link near you coming Monday, will be his newest project Smoking Mirrors... (ok, quick -- the yellow triangle is tormenting me)
Here is the first single off this mixtape:
Reflections in the Mirror ft. Toby (Girls High Alum, whoop, whoop!!!)
Reflections in the Mirror ft. Toby by SKMusik
download here ---> http://goo.gl/B7dAc
A year ago I could not have imagined I'd be doing this, but I must say I LOVE IT! I am very proud to be the lead in a team of very strong, determined and visionary individuals, with S.K. as the face, the energy, the voice and the talent. S.K. just put out an ALBUM in April titled The Progression, but coming to a d/l link near you coming Monday, will be his newest project Smoking Mirrors... (ok, quick -- the yellow triangle is tormenting me)
Here is the first single off this mixtape:
Reflections in the Mirror ft. Toby (Girls High Alum, whoop, whoop!!!)
Reflections in the Mirror ft. Toby by SKMusik
download here ---> http://goo.gl/B7dAc
Monday, September 19, 2011
Not down with O.P.P.
As a woman in "the industry" my role in a little more precarious than all the males that are tryna get it. Yes, I choose to have a role that is in the background, but that does not mean ground. I will not be walked on. That does not mean that I will let ANYONE (man or woman) disrespect or discredit me.
The (first) assumption will always be that because I am a woman that I am NOT working. Fools you are, because she always is. And just because that is the common assumption, I will not accept it! I will not let any one take credit for my work right in front of me! I refuse. You don't have to know who has done it, but know that you didn't.
And you know what, let's add pride into the equation.. If I (anyone) works hard and the results are successful (or lucrative) one should be proud and sensitive about that. The fuck I look like letting any one take ownership of what's mine? I am not a bragger, but a corrector. Don't claim shit that ain't yours!
I will take this opportunity to talk (brag) about the hard work that I have and continue to do. Actually, it's not just hard work, but good work. I am a driving force behind three very talented individuals right now. I am proud of them and of myself and (again) I will not let anyone cut me out of the equation. (As my guys shouldn't either) One should know that if you are dealing with them, you are dealing with me. It is a package and if that makes you uncomfortable or unwilling then YOU have the problem, not me! I am damn pleasant and a treat to work with.
The (first) assumption will always be that because I am a woman that I am NOT working. Fools you are, because she always is. And just because that is the common assumption, I will not accept it! I will not let any one take credit for my work right in front of me! I refuse. You don't have to know who has done it, but know that you didn't.
And you know what, let's add pride into the equation.. If I (anyone) works hard and the results are successful (or lucrative) one should be proud and sensitive about that. The fuck I look like letting any one take ownership of what's mine? I am not a bragger, but a corrector. Don't claim shit that ain't yours!
I will take this opportunity to talk (brag) about the hard work that I have and continue to do. Actually, it's not just hard work, but good work. I am a driving force behind three very talented individuals right now. I am proud of them and of myself and (again) I will not let anyone cut me out of the equation. (As my guys shouldn't either) One should know that if you are dealing with them, you are dealing with me. It is a package and if that makes you uncomfortable or unwilling then YOU have the problem, not me! I am damn pleasant and a treat to work with.
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